Monday, November 22, 2004

The Land of "Angry" !

Have you ever wondered why things go out of our hands, why we loose control of ourself, and why we fail to succeed at times which requires a calm face.

How is that some activity takes us irritated, and changes the way we react. We react to an activity entirely different from normal, when we are angry. This emotion called anger, is burning inside us, and takes away the control of our senses from us. Let me illustrate.. when you are angry, have you felt like throwing down the thing in your hand (no matter what it is) on the wall.. when you want to throw it you have no control, though somewhere your mind says that was not necessary.. but our sense is out of control and DUMM we throw it.. and the anger goes on and on..

Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specializes in the study of anger.(I wonder how these guys have the patience to read all these things.. i couldnt even study Salt and water equation in chemistry.)

We should not equate Anger to resistance.. what i mean here is, we believe that if we do not show anger, that implies we are obligant with the opponent or something. Being angry does not prove we are strong, or bold or a tough person.

I know, none of us like to be angry, its not our wish to be shown angry in front of someone, but it just pours out, right ??... (i know most of you are angry reading this even..;-)

There are techniques to control our feelings..(no.. not counting 1 2 3..). But this has to be a mind work.

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

But then , you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.

ok ! ok ! Calm down.. if you get angry thik about this ..
" If swimming's such good exercise, how come whales are so fat? "..
oh No ! you are still angry..

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