Tuesday, May 31, 2005

Of Conversations

Don't knock the weather. If it didn't change once in a while, nine out of ten people couldn't start a conversation.
- Kin Hubbard

Cuty Quote. It is an art to begin a Conversation, and it is skill to do it with flair and style.

Why do many of us struggle to begin a conversation. Probably because, we are not sure of the reaction. We are not sure as to where it will end. Directly getting on to a question, requires authorisation. You cant avoid a direct question, if it comes from your boss. But lets say you talk to a new peer, new neighbour, new anybody. How to begin a conversation.

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First and Foremost point, if you are trying to initiate a conversation, is to understand the real meaning of conversation. It is a two way talk-snippet of something - Two Way. Most of us fail to leave a listening ear. We need to make our ears modest enough to listen. When we dont have a listening ear, conversations turn into Arguements. So, the first point here, is to start a conversation in a way that the other person would react.

Its the same internet technique.
1. Come down to the wave length.
2. Talk in his language
3. Accept feed, back to you.
4. Listen and Respond (theres a difference between "Talk back" and Respond).
5. Do not clash on view points

Most of you guys would certainly have gone through a GD. But, sadly, as far as i have seen, people do well in GD, where they strain to listen and get marks. But they do not do it, outside. They are not ready for a conversation. But more interested in arguements.

Let us say this is a product promise, you know whats the tag-line.
Start good conversations, you will become a good leader.

1 comment:

Kaps said...

Very thoughtful post. Lot of us fail at it. A GD is like being pushed into a well. You are forced to speak as u r fighting for a job or a college admission. In real life there is no such pressing need and hence we might tend to goof up.